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Living the Dream?

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“Living the dream…”

“My dream come true…”

“My worst nightmare…”

“In your dreams…”

“Sweet dreams…”

“Dream on…”

“Dare to dream…”

“Not in my wildest dreams…”

“The man/woman of my dreams is…”

Are you living the life of your dreams?  Is that a good thing?

What if we all are living the life of our dreams all the time, for better or for worse?

Why is it that we talk about “daring to dream” as if we’re talking about big audacious goals?  Are dreams and goals the same thing?  If so, then what’s going on during our sleep and does it matter?

I doesn’t help that our English word dream appears to have two very separate origins, one from Germanic, meaning deception, and the other from Old English, meaning joy or mirth.

Most of us dream every single night, yet we rarely remember our dreams.  Looking back, I’d say that, in my lifetime, I’ve only had maybe a dozen or so dreams that have really stayed with me to this day—out of over 21,000 nights of sleep.  Just this morning, I woke up knowing I’d been dreaming, yet couldn’t grab it before it slipped away.  I do find, by the way, that I’m much more likely to remember a dream if I don’t bound right out of bed and if I write it or speak it…

You don’t need to be a psychiatrist to know that dreams can be meaningful.  They’re really the only chance most of us ever get to experience our uncensored, unfiltered, and often unbidden thoughts, feelings, and desires.

Some dreams are junk, which makes sense.  Shouldn’t the mind and the emotional body be able to produce and eliminate toxic waste?  But if dreams are full of sh%t, might there be a pony in there somewhere?  And might it be worth knowing what the gems may be in the junk before we discard them?

I’m pretty good at getting caught up in the daily realities of life and not always immediately in touch with my desires or even some of my emotions.  So I’m always eager to decipher the dreams I remember, because I’ll take all the clues I can find to understanding and breaking down the barriers I may have to my own happiness.

As I said, I’ve only had a few momentous dreams that I can remember in my life.  But I’ve experienced many more, most of them pretty mundane in content.  But the concrete and unfiltered visual nature of dreams may just be a different language that we can decipher.  For example, I’ve often felt that I must have been a pilot in a past life because I love to fly and I love to view the world from 35,000 feet.  And, of course, I’ve had dreams of flying.

But what I just realized is that in MOST of my dreams, I naturally move around about a foot above the ground, smoothly and with no friction holding me back.  I’m not flying like Superman, just walking through the air a foot above the ground.  It never occurred to me before, but this happens even in dreams that are about something else.  The content or story of the dream can just be something mundane that I’m processing about my waking life or whatever else.  But there’s a theme for me here and I never noticed!  I have a super power in my dreams!  It’s just a matter of course that I can fly!  But, because it happens in every dream as a matter of course, maybe I take it for granted?

So what does this mean for me in my life?  Maybe this is the power that I need to step into?  That I don’t need to hold myself back?  That there are no brakes needed?  That I really can move forward with ease?  That I have power beyond measure that I haven’t fully engaged?

Most of the people I know from indigenous cultures are far more connected with their dreams than those of us with modern western roots.  I wonder if this is because, in general, they are less caught up in our modern world and are therefore more connected with the natural world around them as well as within.  Maybe their dream world is much closer to their day to day life and they, therefore, have more context for those dreams in their waking lives.

I don’t think it’s a given that we would WANT to live the life of our dreams.  But I think we do it anyway, for better or worse.  Those who dream of trauma also tend to relive trauma by day.

So what does all this night dreaming have to do with our “dreams” for the future?  Actually, the two meanings seem to come from completely different origins.  But since the word is the same and the meanings have hybridized, let’s look at a potential relationship between them.

Since our dreams for the future often are considered unrealistic or not possible to attain, what if the treasures available in our nighttime dreaming, like my ability to fly, are keys to actually manifesting those seemingly impossible dreams?

What if our nighttime dreams are just as real as our daily life, though transcendent of our physical and time constraints, and just as important to creating our goals and visions and manifesting both?

What if our deepest desires, maybe the ones that we don’t access in our waking life, are right there for us in our dreams, ready to be decoded?

And what if not accessing these desires—and not realizing them--in a lifetime means living and dying with frustration or dissatisfaction?

Have you noticed that many people, as they age, tend to become increasingly focused on the mundane in their waking lives?  That they often succumb to a programmed life and behave as if their dreams, either kind, are mere folly of the past?  That there’s nothing new to discover?

That’s not me.  Is it you?

If you’re still dreaming, talk to me.  I’m interested in the big momentous dreams and also the mundane daily ones.  What are they telling you?  What can you learn from them?  And how can they inform your daily life?



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